Looking at the many faces of self-sabotage

With the new year approaching, and resolutions being made, it is a good time to consider how we can make the next year more successful on all levels. According to the Oxford dictionary, success is “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.” Do you have an aim or purpose that you would love to strive for in the coming year? Have you tried in the past to achieve that but felt obstacles hindering you?

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said: “We are our own devils; we drive ourselves out of our Edens.”

We all feel at times that we are our own worst enemies, that we are victims of self-sabotage.
What does sabotage mean? By definition it is: “any undermining of a cause, to injure or attack”. In the case of self-sabotage, it is directed toward the self.  It can mean thoughts, feelings, belief systems that work against us and that are obstacles that hinder us in the achievements of our goals and dreams.

Have you ever come across a core belief that interferes or is not in harmony with what you truly desire in life? For example: Deep down, you would love more money but there is a belief in your heart and soul that says: “Money is the root of all evil.” You may have adopted that belief early in life from your parents, teachers or minister and, consciously or unconsciously, made it yours. Now that core belief is definitely in the way of achieving your dreams of material prosperity as it may undermine you at every opportunity you may have to get a promotion at work or receive a monetary gift.

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

“A person’s worst enemy can’t wish on him what he can think up himself.” Yiddish Proverb

What are some other types of self-sabotage?
1) Believing that life is hard and that there is only progress through struggle and pain, that a price has to be paid to move forward.

2) Giving up too soon and too easily

3) Putting things off till the last minute, or not giving oneself enough time to prepare, to study, to get things done just the way we would truly like them.

4) Giving into habits that you know are detrimental to your goals as in eating sweets when trying to loose weight.

5) Putting yourself last, or not giving yourself the love and respect you give others.

6) Admiring others and criticizing yourself. Not seeing the goodness and beauty in yourself, beating yourself up for the smallest mistakes.

7) Calling yourself names as in “I am such an idiot” or “I am such a loser”.

8) Believing that you don’t deserve success or that , of all people on the planet, you are not worthy of the beautiful and wonderful things life has to offer. Letting the dark side of the ego cast a shadow over the light of the soul and forgetting your Divine inheritance and birthright.

9) Giving into worry, fear, doubt or anguish

10) Instead of being our own best cheerleader, we fall into the trap of thinking: “You can’t possibly do or get that!”  “You don’t deserve that!” ” You are not good enough for that!” Any of these  sound familiar?

These are just a few examples. Do any of those points speak to you? Have you ever wondered what can be done to change all that and turn the self-sabotage into success?

In my energy healing practice with The Emotion Code, I have done many sessions with people suffering from self-sabotage. One example that comes to my mind is that of a young man who could not find a job, no matter how many interviews he had been to. During the session, it became evident that he had many trapped emotions in his energy field, such as feelings of rejection and abandonment, that made it hard for him to firmly believe that he was going to be accepted by an prospective employer. After those self-sabotaging emotions were released, the good news was that , at his next interview, he got hired. Life is all about energy: if we want to change we have to change our energy!

When anyone comes to me with a certain issue, the question that is asked is: “What type of trapped emotions are at the root of this problem?” Once those emotions are discovered and are released, it is as if the shadow from the ego is removed and the light of the soul can fully shine through. What a wonderful feeling of relief and empowerment that is!
Are there any self-sabotaging emotions you would like to get rid of?

If you think so and would like to let them go, I am offering a 20 minute free consultation for the next few weeks. To schedule yours, or to schedule a full Emotion Code session, please email me at: emotioncodehealing@gmail.com
This offer is good till February 1, 2014.

Looking forward to hear from you,
Doris Crompton, CECP